The Toastess

Writing toasts for the moments that matter most.

The Toastess has written for brides and grooms, their friends and family members, CEOs, commencement speakers and others. Here's what a few of our clients had to say.


Alexandra was incredible in helping me and my sister write our brother’s wedding speech! We didn’t know how to successfully communicate our special relationship and unique family dynamic to all 250 guests. Alexandra listened to all our ideas and stories and successfully wrote a beautiful speech that brought out a lot of laughs and even some tears. She maintained our individual voices while adding her wit and humor to perfect the toast! The guests and especially my brother and sister-in-law LOVED it! Everyone said it was the best toast of the night! We are forever grateful!
— Erica H., Brother's Wedding in D.C.
We are very lucky to have worked with The Toastess. We knew we wanted to make a great speech for our best friend’s wedding and had loads of ideas and stories but we were not sure how to put them together. Alexandra took our ideas and made one of the funniest speeches we have given and by far the funniest at the wedding! She then continued to work with us as we edited her work to feel more like it was from us. As two guys, we were especially grateful to get a girl’s take so that we wouldn’t alienate one half of the room. Thank you!
— Alex S., Groomsman in Mexico
I was invited to speak at a middle school graduation last spring. Motivational language and inspiring thoughts to share with my eighth grade audience (and their parents and teachers) swirled in my head, but I had trouble putting them into a cohesive, engaging talk. The Toastess helped me organize my ideas seamlessly and beautifully. She really had an inherent talent for getting to the heart of my heart, and helped me express myself exactly as I wanted to.
— Wendy H., Commencement in New Jersey
The Toastess was a lifesaver! I wanted to write a great rehearsal dinner speech but admittedly did not have the time, skill, nor energy to do so myself. Enter the Toastess. In a short amount of time, she was able to capture the ideas and stories I wanted to convey and transform them into a speech that is the perfect mix of wit, humor, and loving sentiment. It’s amazing how well she was able to capture the relationship and situation at hand through just a short interview.
— Katie M., Bridesmaid in Florida
If you’re feeling nervous about an upcoming speech or aren’t sure exactly how to tell your story, do yourself a favor and hire The Toastess now! Although I normally think I’m a relatively strong speech writer/speaker, I wanted to make sure my MOH speech for my sister’s wedding was above and beyond. The Toastess helped me do just that. My sister and brother in law’s reaction to the speech justifies every penny I spent! She was friendly, professional and fun to work with. Cannot wait to collaborate on any future toasts.
— Jen M., Sister's Wedding in Chicago
The speech was a HUGE HIT! She was over the moon with happiness and love for us for spending the time and coming up with such a personal, touching toast that truly captured her essence as a person and friend to all who were there. We got some good laughs, too!
— Patty S., 60th Birthday in New York
Working with The Toastess was incredibly seamless. We discussed my ideas over the phone and within days she was able to create an original and heartfelt speech that still felt true to my personal voice. She is a true and talented professional and I recommend her to everyone.
— Chloe C., Maid of Honor in Spain
The Toastess has been a massive help for me and totally bailed me out on several groomsman speeches. She has a very good grasp of what will ‘click’ with the audience — what will land as funny, when something feels like too much of an inside joke, when a speech feels honest. I took all of her pointers and thank God I did. The speech was a hit, and I have The Toastess to thank for it.
— Max A., Groomsman in D.C.
The Toastess did an incredible job bringing my vision for my speech to life for my best friend’s wedding. I knew what I wanted to say, but was not sure how to start. We had an introductory call where she gathered information about what I wanted to say, funny details about the couple and the mood/tone of the rehearsal dinner. She did an incredible job tying together the themes we discussed, was open to edits and helped me immeasurably — not just with the writing and the composition of my speech, but giving me the confidence I needed to read it loud and proud. Thank you!
— Jessica L., Bridesmaid in New York
The Toastess is always able to deliver an amazing, heartfelt speech. She takes the words and ideas given to her and writes an eloquent piece that is heartfelt. All of her pieces are so well-written, with rhythm and purpose. She has always come through for me — even when it was a last minute party! She is the best!
— Sheri R., Mother-of-the-Bride in New York
Working with The Toastess was a great experience. She is professional, witty and enjoyable to work with. She helped me formulate my thoughts into a well-worded speech. We could not have killed it without her!
— Justin E., Groomsman in Mexico
Thank you so much. The toast was a hit at the lunch today. Everyone loved it. And she was very appreciative and happy.
— Susan B., 60th Birthday in New York
You hit the nail on the head here! Teared up a little the first time I read through it.
— Heather B., Maid of Honor in Alabama
Thank you for writing my first ever bridesmaid speech! I was blown away watching you spit out rhymes about famous artists and museums (the bride is an artist herself), like an early Lin-Manuel Miranda. The speech helped me show the bride how much faith I have in her as a woman, friend, and wife in a way that everyone enjoyed. Your written word is simultaneously elegant and approachable, and I already can’t wait to call you for another toast.
— Alex G., Bridesmaid in New York
My experience with The Toastess was certainly the ‘mostest.’ She took my speech and gave it the perfect edit that made all of the stories absolutely sing. She has a fantastic sense of humor, and a way of making each of the elements of the toast their absolutely best, both individually and in conjunction with the larger message of the toast. Cheers a hundred times over!
— Carolyn S., Bridesmaid in Anguilla